The following are questions submitted in a recent webinar I held in October titled “Master Your Reality”. Each week a few new questions and responses from the event will be posted.

QUESTION: Why is it that some days you feel peaceful and happy. Then the next day even when trying to stay positive and it seems like the universe is against you and you cannot get ahead?

RESPONSE: Peace and happiness stem from acceptance and faith. This is a faith and understanding in your ability to be and experience anything you set your mind towards. On good days you know the limitless possibility that is always in front of you and you are working towards the manifestation of that possibility which breeds hope.

A negative mindset stems from and idea of personal imperfection, denial, resistance and a limited view on what is possible; the loss of hope. Things happen to us each day to reveal the truth to us and it is up to each one of us as to how we choose to experience and react to these “happenings”. We can see them as setbacks or we can have faith that they are part of the larger learning experience we are on to get to where we said we ultimately wanted to go in life.

Life is not a straight line. There is and ebb and a flow to it. The greater your awareness of the true nature of all things the more you flow and the less you ebb. And when you do ebb you are able to pull yourself out in a much shorter experience of time. In the down moments remember all you do have and all that is yet to come for you because you have always been worth it. This is “will” check time (kind of like gut check time). How badly do you desire to experience the life you dream about big or small. There are perceived obstacles to every path, however it will be your will, desire and the realization of your birthright for joy and peace that sees you through to many more peaceful days.

QUESTION: Some teachers very strongly suggest that we come to peace with the fact that there is a greater master plan at work in all our lives and once we release our need to control the outcome of the events in our lives then we will find ourselves at peace. On the other hand, many others teach that we are here to create our own realities. I believe these two can co-exist but I haven’t yet figured out exactly how. What are your thoughts on this, Howard?

RESPONSE: Both ideas clearly understood are a powerful combination. Since everything we do ultimately is for our perceived survival, when we realize that our survival is never in doubt we are free to create without limits and expectations, putting us in the most powerful and liberating state of mind in existence.

The master plan is infinite life and limitless creativity. So it is not about losing your desire for the creation and outcome you wish for, it is about realizing you don’t NEED the outcome to happen to survive. By releasing your need you create from a state of unconditional love. Nothing is more powerful than this energy of thought. Control comes from need. Need comes from fear. Fear comes from the desire to survive. When you create without the need to control the outcome because you have come to an understanding and faith in the ultimate outcome, your creativity and experiences will know no limit. There will be no end to your joy.

QUESTION: How does one learn to control ones appetites and addictions?

RESPONSE: Control indicates forced action. Forced action is draining and usually doesn’t last. The question you may want to ask is how does one transcend addiction? Addiction is a means to an end that never comes, hence the addiction. To transcend it you will need to find the beliefs you hold that cause your normal state of mind (without the addictive property) to become so negative that you crave relief. This discovery will take a will and desire for real change and will lead you down a path of deep self-inquiry and awareness. With a consistent dedication for your desired reality these poisonous beliefs will ultimately be discovered, dissolved and replaced by new ones that empower you in a way where there is no more addiction because there is no longer a poor state of mind that you seek relief from.

QUESTION: Are we supposed to choose who we want to be? Or do we just reveal who we truly are already?

RESPONSE: Both – Through the process of self-awareness we reveal more of who we really are, which empowers us to be even more limitless as we create who and what we choose to be, which reveals more of who we really are, which empowers us to be even more limitless as we create who and what we choose to be, which reveals more of who we really are, which empowers us to be even more limitless as we create who and what we choose to be……………….